THEY JUST POSTED THIS ON THE HUB BECAUSE IT’S PHOTO OF THE YEAR
Not entirely sure what to say because I have never experienced what you are going through .. I understand that people change but that is part of life. The experiences we go through do not make us who we are, how we come out on the other end does. There are two types of people in the world: people who allow a bad experience to make them bitter and people who allow a bad experience to make them better. People change everyday. The people we meet can influence us to improve ourselves or to ruin ourselves. I am sure you haven’t had the same haircut your whole entire life or dressed the same your whole entire life so you should not be surprised when someone else doesn’t appear the same any longer .. maybe they just thought it was time for a change because their life was changing?
I don’t know.
We never go to bed and wake up the same person we were yesterday. You broke up in October, there has been a long gap in time since you’ve seen each other so of course he looks / or is a different person and that’s completely okay. You should allow others to grow, it’s healthy.
I got out of a marriage in November. I have no idea who my ex-husband is now and I have no idea what he looks like now, but I do know that we weren’t right for each other and that he was preventing me from being the person I wanted to be (which is just someone who is always kind and positive) so I didn’t stay around to be dragged down with his negativity. My hair is a different color, I no longer only wear neutral colors - I’ve added some brightness to my wardrobe, and I’m not the person he was married to anymore.
I’m not the girl who lays in bed until sunrise because my heart aches from feeling empty inside while lying next to “the rest of my life,” I’m not the girl who dismisses her friends when they try to talk to me or hang out with me because my “husband” doesn’t appreciate the people I have in my life,” and I’m not the girl who spends all day doing nothing because he would rather stay at home and play video games than go to the park to feed ducks or sit in the pool to cool off in the Florida sun. Now because I’m not with him, I’m the girl who wears yellow because it’s the color of the sun and it makes me happy. I am the girl who goes to bed feeling completely fulfilled because I have everyone & more that I need (back) in my life. I am the girl who can see my friends whenever I want to because the person I’m with understands that I have my own life but will also willingly come for the entertainment of conversation. And now I am the girl who goes outside for a walk, goes on an adventure somewhere far away because it’s my day off, goes to book stores / craft stores / & second hand stores to fill in the hours between wake, work, and bed.
Life is an endless cycle of phasing in and out of things & people. Who we allow to share our time with and where we do ultimately makes us who we are at the time.
The time you shared together is now the past, just like how he looked and how he acted.